Using Self-Compassion Techniques to Calm Yourself

This month we want to share with you the reminder that you do not have to be perfect, on time, doing the most, exceeding your goals or limiting your self-care to please others all the time. The point of life is to enjoy it and while goals and necessary tasks allow us to further ourselves, it is not necessary to be hard on yourself when you need to take a break. You may have noticed that I did not send out a September Good Heart Tribe Newsletter. While this took some self-forgiveness and acceptance, it was necessary to tend to myself and I hope it serves as a reminder that YOU CAN TOO, if it will best serve yourself and others in the long run. Here are some reminders on how to go easier on yourself:

How Can I Go Easier On Myself and Still Make Progress?


Helpful Self-Compassion Reminders

Let it Go

The path to enlightenment is paved with a release of both attachment and aversion. Feeling like the task ahead of you too much to bear? Let that idea go. Feeling like you’re not good enough to heed forward through this time in your life? Let that feeling go. Stressing over something that you feel you should have done, but did not, or shouldn’t have done, but did? Try to come to terms with the fact that we can only change what is changeable and try to determine the difference between what you can and cannot change. Also, give yourself room to grow and learn. If you don’t give yourself permission to do this, can anyone else?

Today, Nothing is Urgent

Today, your naturally assigned tasks are to do the following: Eat, drink water, shower, sleep and breathe. If you need to give yourself an easy day today, do so. If you need to schedule that easy day for tomorrow, do so. Society teaches us, unfortunately, that the early bird gets the worm and only the strongest, most on-top-of-it survive. Survival and “getting the worm” really depend upon what worm you want and what survival means to you. Get done what needs to be done when it will best serve yourself and others and if stress or feelings of being overwhelmed or not good enough arise, return to your naturally assigned tasks: eat, drink water, shower, sleep and breathe.

Pre-Task Tasks for Less Stress

Breathe First

One way to reduce the pressure placed on you to complete a task by yourself or others is to breathe deeply before you begin the task. Breathing deeply allows your body to engage the system that helps to calm you called the parasympathetic nervous system. You, essentially, remind your body that it has the ability to self-regulate. Breathing deeply before completing a task has shown that you not only have more resilience in stressful situations, but you also experience more overall happiness and can think better!

Plan to Only Do One Thing at a Time

Coming from someone who states she is a frequent “multi-tasker”, I have to admit that multi-tasking is not something that it actually possible for most, including myself. When we’re working on many things at once, we are actually giving a little amount of our time and attention to each task we are completing quickly and at times, inefficiently. When you focus on one thing at a time, you are able to slow down, think more clearly, reduce the stress you have on goal and task completion, and, potentially, smile more while completing everything.

Schedule Breaks

A reminder here that you are allowed to take breaks! Every 90 minutes, you should take a break. Our Clinical Supervisor at Good Heart Recovery can be seen taking walks around the block around this time when he needs it. I personally schedule a break around this time when working on something to remind myself of the blessings I have in my life (even on what feel like the worst of days). When you’re planning to do something, try planning to give it your best work for a certain period of time and then rest, take a break, find a balance that only you can provide yourself.

Practice Self-Compassion

Our approach at Good Heart Recovery is to help you learn to show yourself and other compassion. We live in an imperfect world that serves us perfectly. It’s not about being the best, it’s about seeing the best in everything we are given. Something as simple as
“I am a human being. I am not going to be perfect and that is okay”
can change your life if you say it enough times. Trust me ;)